By Melissa Garza
As I just encountered something I loathe – yet something I
see every day, I figured I’d write about the topic here. Facebook Wars are silly, stupid and juvenile
yet every day adults, like myself, are involved in them.
This particular war was with extended family. I’ve blocked and deleted them which I found very
therapeutic but also serves as a surefire way to ensure that the war ended sooner
than later.
It was brief and stupid and something I wish I had walked
away from in the beginning yet different emotions cause reaction. The best thing I could have done was to not
add them at all or to delete them ions ago.
That brings up another aspect of Facebook. Why is it that people who have not spoken to
each other in years and never really liked each other to begin with – add each
other on Facebook? I must admit in the
beginning, I fell into this mode. I added
most people who asked. I didn’t want to
be rude….but then I started looking at them and thought, “You were complete
scum in high school. You bullied me all
the time” or there were people who were crazy or people I didn’t know or people
I didn’t want to know. So, one by one – I deleted them. There were others who said inappropriate
things to me despite me being married – deleted.
I think the easiest way to avoid Facebook Wars is to be very
careful about who you add to your account.
For example:
- Don’t add troublemakers
-
Don’t add people from high school that you haven’t
seen in years -
Don’t be afraid to delete people who are whack
jobs -
If someone tries to start a Facebook War – say what
you’re going to say – (unless you are one of the few who have the ability to
not say anything. God I admire those
people) and then delete and block them. -
Just because someone sends you a friends request,
doesn’t mean you have to accept
Overall, Facebook is a fun way to correspond with friends
and a great time-filler when you’re bored…but it’s also an easy way to waste energy
on people who don’t matter at all.
Thankfully, I have my husband who is one of the rare people
who can walk away. He has the intellect,
dignity, and self-respect to not respond.
He’s the type of person that I aim to be; but in the meantime he helps
me do the right thing – even if it’s a little later than I should have.
So, if you’re like me….ready to go in with your fists up and
start to rumble – find yourself a mellow love who will politely and with
affection help you find the middle ground that you can’t see. My husband does that for me and I will
forever be grateful to him.
